Why You Should Stop Hating Yourself

Why You Should Stop Hating Yourself

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We all have moments of insecurity from time to time. But self-loathing and harboring negative beliefs about yourself cripples you and prevents you from moving forward in life.

If you don't value yourself and your worth, you will ignore your strengths, and you will be wasting your potential.

Self-hatred is a hindrance to a happy and fulfilling life.

Here are 5 reasons why you should stop hating yourself.

1. The way you perceive yourself makes a huge difference in the way your life turns out.

Your perception of yourself affects the choices you make in life. If you consider yourself a loser, you will have no confidence in yourself, and you will never take any initiative to improve your life.

You will give up before you even start working on your goals. You will limit your potential and miss out on great opportunities to better yourself and live a happier life. Negative beliefs about yourself prevent you from making any progress in your life.

2. Hating yourself makes it hard for you to accept compliments and appreciate yourself.

When you hate yourself, you can never appreciate your strengths, and give yourself enough credit.

You take every bit of criticism too seriously and downplay compliments. So when someone compliments you, you think they probably pity you or want something in return.

Without self-appreciation, you will always lack confidence and not be able to achieve your goals.

Instead of focusing more on the negative attributes, and always undermining yourself, have faith in your abilities and celebrate your strengths.

3. It hinders you from growing in life.

Criticizing yourself all the time prevents you from being a better version of yourself. Since you think you suck, you don't spend any time and energy on your personal development. You think you are worthless, so you put no effort into improving yourself.

Remember that everybody has flaws, even the people who seem to have it all together. Hating yourself for your imperfections isn't going to help you in any way.

Embrace your flaws and focus on areas where you can get better. Working towards bettering yourself makes you happier and gives you something to look forward to every day. Be open to learning new things and seeing the good in everyday life.

Instead of feeding yourself negative thoughts, focus on self-love.

4. It leads to unhealthy relationships.

Since you don't like yourself, you find it hard to accept that someone else would be able to like you. When you hate yourself, you will always be insecure and blame yourself for everything that goes wrong.

You also tend to tolerate unhealthy behaviors toward yourself because you think that's what you deserve. If you don't respect yourself, you'll let other people treat you poorly and take advantage of you.

5. Beating yourself up about your mistakes isn't going to make anything better.

Instead of ruminating on the past and obsessing over your mistakes in life, get a new perspective, learn from your mistakes, and move on. Many people spend way too much time hating themselves for the mistakes they have made in their lives.

It keeps them stuck in the past and prevents them from making any positive changes in their lives. Rather than wasting your time thinking about the mistakes, focus on the present moment, and strive to become better.

What do you think causes a person to hate themselves? 

Share your thoughts with me in the comments section below.

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  1. For me, I can tend to hate my life if I believe that everything is all about me. Then, I become so self-absorbed, maybe with an appearance on the outside that I am confident, but on the inside, I am super-insecure. It’s better to be humble, and understand that life is not all about me. When I am focused on helping and serving others, I experience less self-loathing. Hope you are well!!

    1. You're absolutely right Rebecca! We got to look at the bigger picture. I'm fine, and I hope everything is going well with you.:)


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