When You Can’t Believe Anything Good Can Happen To You

When You Can’t Believe Anything Good Can Happen To You
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Sometimes we get so overwhelmed with the negative experiences in our life, it becomes difficult for us to believe that there is more to life than these unpleasant moments.

Continuously thinking about such moments takes away the sparkle from your life and all you are left with is hopelessness. You somehow end up being convinced that you will probably never experience anything good in your life and your life will always be dull.

Such a mindset is usually developed when:

1. You get deeply affected by negative experiences.

You become so focused on hating your life and dwelling on the negative experiences that you can’t seem to embrace happiness in your life. 

2. You doubt yourself so much that you end up believing that you don’t deserve happiness.

You think nothing you do is ever worthy so you don't even try. You let yourself believe that you deserve the suffering and it is pointless to try and change that.

3. You fear that after every good or happy experience, something terrible will happen.

So instead of enjoying the pleasant moments, you put more focus on supposedly 'preparing yourself' for the upcoming unpleasant experiences. This fear of unpleasant situations clouds your mind and affects your ability to embrace any happiness that life offers.

If you keep this mindset, you will always be miserable. When you think anything good can never happen to you, you’ll just accept the negativity as it is. You won't even try to make any positive changes in your life.

It is important that you completely free yourself from this mindset. Keep a clear vision of what you want for yourself and live life as it comes to you.
Realize that you will inevitably face both negative and positive experiences. They are a part of life and you have to deal with them in the right way. 

Don’t let negative emotions to preoccupy your mind. Shifting your focus from negative experiences to the positive ones makes you happier and keeps you motivated.

Always remember that you are not here to only suffer and deal with negative people and experiences. Believe in goodness and believe that you are deserving of it. Good things will happen to you when you actively look for them and work towards them. 

Strive to make each day as fulfilling and productive as possible. Don't worry too much about what has happened in the past or what will happen in the future, just embrace all the goodness you can find in the present moment.

Work on bettering yourself and the situations around you. 
Don't just be a passive observer of your life. If you keep dwelling on the negative experiences and whining about how things aren't working for you, you create a negative mindset. 

This negative mindset is detrimental to your well-being. It hinders you from reaching your full potential and prohibits you from seeing anything in a positive light.

As a result, you only focus on the problems in your life instead of actually making the effort to find solutions to those problems. Only complaining about the negativity in your life will not make your situation any better.

When you get so busy dwelling on negativity, you won’t be able to experience the happy moments fully even if it’s in front of you. You will tend to ignore them because you have just made up your mind that you will never experience happiness and anything good can never happen to you.

Whereas believing in the goodness of life will allow you to gravitate towards the opportunities that would fulfill your end goals leading to satisfaction and happiness. 

And you will become ready to embrace it. 

What do you think? What can a person do to develop a positive attitude towards life? 

Share your thoughts in the comments below.


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  1. I love this post, and your advice!! I definitely struggle with this negative mindset. For instance, I’m in school part-time, and I recently finished my final exam. But, instead of taking time out to celebrate, my mind instantly went to thoughts of, “What’s the next challenge”, or, “What hurdle do I have to cross next.” I agree, it’s so important to live in the moment. Easier said than done, but it helps to have a community to discuss, and be open and honest about these things, like this blog! 😊 Thank you for the post,

    1. Thank you so much Rebecca! Comments like these keep me motivated. I'm so glad you are able to share your thoughts so freely on this blog. It becomes so much easier to move on from the negative experiences when you have a support network.
      Stay happy and enjoy the goodness in the present moment!

  2. Well, the first point applies to me, I am deeply affected by negative experiences. I have had terrible experiences and discouragements at school and work, that I finally started to believe that not only all my efforts and actions were in vein, but my future actions and efforts will suffer the same fate. I have great plans, but every time I want to take an action, I stop and feel that it is not worth the effort. Apparently nothing is worth my efforts anymore.

    1. Hey Ali, I understand where you are coming from. It can be hard to stay hopeful and take action when you don't see any positive results. You are not alone. We are all trying to figure it out. Please don't stop trying. You can't say for sure that your future actions and efforts will not bring positive results. Things always change. Things will get better. All the work that you're putting in is helping you to become better and wiser. If one approach is not working, try something else. Your plans will work out. Good luck:)


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