What To Do When You Expect Too Much

what to do when you expect too much
All my life I have been a shy girl. Though I have made attempts to come out of my shell but the attempts were futile.

I always wanted to be popular- wondered what would it be like to get so much attention and to be recognized.
But I never seemed to have that quality to attract attention. I've always wondered that is it necessary to be an extrovert to be successful in life? Because then you seem to get whatever you want.

People usually ignored me, only talked to me whenever they needed my notes or some odd favor that I was too polite to say NO. That brings me to another great quality of mine that I would like to get rid of. I never said 'no' to anyone.

I always helped people get their stuff done. Sure that's an admirable thing to do as many say. But the problem with me is that I expect shit in return. I thought that if I do that people will like me more and that I can also be recognized and considered popular.

I have always wanted people to like me, I thought way too much about what other people thought of me.

And that's exactly why I always end up getting sad when things don't turn out the way I expect them to be.

when you expect too much from others
Everybody is selfish- that sounds harsh - or the better word would be self-interest I guess?!

Everybody worries about their own self-interest at the end of the day, no matter how dear a person might be to you, it all comes down to 'self-interest'.
So the best option is to do good things, help other people without expecting anything in return. Only you will have to look out for yourself.

And NEVER fuss about what other people think about you.

It seems like a hard thing to do. I am still trying to figure out a way to do that.

Let me tell you I wasted way too much time trying to impress people with my kind gestures of helping them and go out of my way to help them but it didn't get me anything.

Remember that -- Do Good because you want to and not because you have an ulterior motive for doing so.